Getting the Better of Your Emotions

Here are 3 suggestion as to how we can help manage our emotions (esp. anger & depression) better. If you have any other suggestions, please leave a comment or tag.


Idea 1: Find a healthy community of friends.

No man is an island, especially during our teenage years. We always look for companionship and friendship.

Somehow, we just like to form cliques. There's always this certain group of friends that you particularly like to hang out with. And these are people we can share our feelings & emotions with.

The key here is that this community of friends that we're closed to, should be healthy. If this group always gets into trouble in school and outside of school, and sarcastic remarks are the norm, I really don't think it's a healthy group.

Look for a group where you can find
1) Kind & encouraging words are always there.

2) Trouble-free from the school authorities and parents



Idea 2: Learn to forgive.

Most often than not, when we are angry, we're angry at people. In every relationship between friends, family or even married couples, there's bound to be conflicts. When these conflicts are not handled properly, there will be a lot of anger.

Well, you can be passive and keep the anger within yourself. Everyday, you can wake up hating the person, and very soon, you will miss out on the joy of life. Haven't you seen people who are always angry? They're angry at everyone they meet. How can they be happy?

Or I suggest you can make the first move when you're angry with someone. Take the step to forgive and be reconciled with the person. Nevermind if the other person is still angry. At least, you have done your part. Trust me, you will feel so much lighter.



Idea 3: Find a mentor.

A mentor is someone who can guide you in your life.

Often, young people lacked wisdom and maturity in handling their emotions. Seriously, think about it, an angry 15 years-old sharing his anger or depression issues with another 15 years-old, what advice can the other person give? After all, they are of similar maturity and age.

Well, the truth is, most of the time, older people are really wiser, because they have more experiences in life.

I really hope that young people will find good mentors whom they can trust and share their problems with.

Who's Controlling Who? Your Emotions or You?

When you are angry, what is it that you wish to do do?


1. Stuff yourself with as much food as possible.


2. Go watch a comedy in the cinema to make yourself happier.


3. Be alone and don't talk to anyone.


4. Go exercise and sweat it out.


5. Find some friends and chill out with them.


6. Go read a book.


7. Go and sleep, pretend that nothing has happened.


8. Blog or write down it your diary about what happened.


9. Play computer/PS/Xbox games (maybe online ones like Mapel, Dota or WoW).


10. Take a gun and go shoot all those people that made you angry.


I hope none of you chose the 10th option. Just last week, the world witnessed the worst campus shooting in the United States. Cho Seung-hui, a student in Virginia Tech, killed 32 people, before killing himself.

I have no idea what exactly Cho Seng-hui was going through. But I believe that when he committed the act, he was extremely angry and depressed. He wasn't in control of his emotions. His emotions were in control of him.


Sometimes, when I look at the students in my school, I realised that some of them seems to be always angry. They would always show angry faces. Vulgarities come out freely from their mouth. They speak rudely to peers and teachers.


I don't think this only happens in Springfield. Generally, many of our young people in Singapore nowadays have problems controlling their anger.


Anger seems to be controlling them.


It's perfectly normal for anyone to feel angry at times. However, the difference is how a person manage his anger. If, in his anger, he did something impulsive and hurt others or even himself, then it's bad. Or alternatively, if he keeps trying to contain the anger within himself, and doesn't share with anyone, it's like a built-up volcano. Once this person erupts in anger, the consequences can be very serious.


However, I believe that there are ways to help young people control their anger and emotions. I have 3 suggestsions that I would like to share :

1) Find a healthy community of friends.

2) Learn to forgive.

3) Find a mentor.


(To be continued...)

The Truth about Failure

Today, I came across this saying about "Failure". I would like to share this with everyone:


Failure doesn't mean you are a failure...
...it does mean you haven't succeeded yet.


Failure doesn't mean you have accomplished nothing...
...it does mean you have learned something.


Failure doesn't mean you have been a fool...
...it does mean you had a lot of faith.


Failure doesn't mean you have been disgraced...
...it does mean you were willing to try.


Failure doesn't mean you don't have it...
...it does mean you have to do something in a different way.


Failure doesn't mean you are inferior...
...it does mean you are not perfect.


Failure doesn't mean you've wasted your life...
...it does mean you've a reason to start afresh.


Failure doesn't mean you should give up...
...it does mean you should try harder.


Failure doesn't mean you'll never make it...
...it does mean it will take a little longer.


Failure doesn't mean God has abandoned you...
...it does mean God has a better idea!



Author: Robert Schuller

Each Day is a Gift, that's why We Call it the Present

Just a few days ago, I heard that one of the students in Springfield had been admitted to the hospital. She was allegic to some medication that was given to her. I do not know the exact details, except for the fact that she's only Sec 1, 12+ years old. And she's fighting for her life in the hospital.

I had been going to the hospital almost everyday, for more than one and a half months. My grandpa stayed in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) at SGH for more than a month. Just like the Sec 1 girl, he was also fighting for his life.

Thank God that a miracle happened and he survive (despite him being 82 years old)! He's much better now, and is no longer in critical condition. I pray that the Sec 1 girl will also experience the same kind of miracle as my grandpa.

I really feel that life is precious. Every single second of it. We would never know when our life would suddenly end. But I guess, the key question that we all should answer would be: "If I am to suddenly leave this world, what are the things I have left behind?"

"Is it a lot of unresolved issues with my loved ones? And have I caused them so much pain and hurt?"

No. Everyday, I want to be able to be a blessing to the people around me.

Whatever accomplishments that I may have gotten, (like my degree, like my car, etc) they are of no value when I leave this world. People will forget them very quickly. But if I am able to touch lives and transform them while I'm alive, I believe that these are things that will last.

Treasure each day of your life. Don't waste it. Always be a blessing to others.

A Frustrated Student

Today, during school hours, I walked past one of my students. He was sitting right outside General Office, and not attending any class. I walked right up to him, and asked him what he was doing there.

" 'Cher, last Friday, they said that I was rude to the teachers. Hence, I have been asked to write a report of what happened. But 'Cher, I really wasn't rude. I was just asking the teacher something. "

"Is there anything else you did?"

"Well, I did exclaim something out. A vulgarity. But I was just exclaiming it. I didn't mean to use it to scold any of the teachers."

Honestly, if you ask me, perhaps what the student said was true. He didn't intend to use the vulgarity to scold any of the teachers. However, over the years, I realised that sometimes, it is not who you think you are that matters most. It is actually what others think of you.

In the case of my student, he genuinely believed that he had done nothing wrong. But from the teachers' perspective, obviously it seems that he had scolded them. Hence, it is nothing wrong that the teachers want to discipline him.

I think that this applies to every stage of our lives. Human relationships are very complicated and not easy to handle. We have to be conscious of what others think of us. If we're not, we might offend or hurt the people around us unknowingly.

However, there is a balance to this. We need to have a set of basic values and principles that we want to uphold in our lives, and we cannot compromise them even if our peers disagree with us.

To summarize, we need to be conscious of what others think of ourselves, as well as be ready to stand up for the basic values and principles in our lives.

My Plaques / Medals in Springfield Sec

Yesterday morning, we had our annual school run at Bedok Reservoir. All the students and staff of Springfield were gathered there early in the morning for the 4.5km route.

Some of the teachers (including me) were asked to run as well.

Here's my number tag...

The competitive student runners went first. Following right behind them are the teachers. After about 30 minutes of panting, running, struggling and persevering, I finally finished the race.

By then, I was really exhausted. I haven't really been exercising for the past 1 month or so.

To my surprise, among the staff, I actually came in 2nd in position. During the prize presentation, the school principal presented a plaque to me.

Of course, I'm happy to receive a plaque. My fellow practicum teacher joked with me, "Hey, I don't want to be in the same school with you next time. You always win all the awards!"

He was just joking. After all, for this Bedok Reservoir Run, I was the youngest male teacher that ran. Well, I have an advantage in terms of age as compared to the rest of the male teachers. Furthermore, the PE teachers did not take part as well.

During the school's Sports Day a month ago, I also won something. I got second in a class relay with 3F , as well second for the staff relay.

My Medals...

However, as I reflected, while it is good that I win these plaques and medals in Springfield, I felt that these are very temporal stuff. Very soon, people will forget about these things.

I'm nearing the end of my 10-weeks practicum soon. I have about 4 more weeks to go. I need to be frank and ask myself this question:

What have I left behind in Springfield?

Honestly, right now, at this present stage, I seemed to have left nothing worthwhile behind.

What I desire to leave behind are students whose lives are transformed. Even if it's just one student, it would be good enough for me. I think that is really more important and lasting than any plaques or medals.

I must somehow leave behind a legacy in Springfield.

What is LOVE?

What exactly is LOVE?

Just last night, I was talking to my Ah Po (grandma). She told me something that shocked me. She said that she and my Ah Gong (grandpa) had been married for 63 years!

Isn't that amazing? I think that's really love.

Love is when I see my Ah Po going hospital everyday to visit my Ah Gong even though she's already 83 years old.

Love is when I see them committed to one another in marriage for 63 years.

I think this is the kind of love that I would want to go for. Committed love.

Love is really about commitment. Sadly, in this present day context, the value of the word "LOVE" has been cheapened. People just say "I love you" without thinking about its true meaning. There are so many divorces nowadays that out of every 10 marriages, 3 end up in divorce. And we're talking about Singapore.

I pray that I would be like my grandparents when I get married. They really understand the word "LOVE" and "COMMITMENT".

My beloved Ah Gong & Ah Po

Thank God It's Friday!!!

Good Friday used to be just an ordinary holiday for me. I looked forward to it because there's no school, and I can go out with my friends.

But in recent years, since I became a Christian in 2003, Good Friday has taken on a really different meaning for me personally. It's a day whereby Christians all over the world remember our Lord Jesus going to the cross 2000 years ago.

And this year's Good Friday, I did something different. Together with another lady leader in my church, Kelly, we brought our youths to West Coast Park to have half a day of fun and to also share the true meaning of Good Friday.

Altogether, there were about 25 youths, and everyone really had fun! All these wouldn't have been possible if not for the planning committee, Venelyn, Yingxin, Kenneth Pang, Tzer Wern, Joanne, Valerie and even little Kimberly. I really thank God for these wonderful youths who rose up and came up with this great event!! You guys were really great!!

Of course, besides having Treasure Hunt and Water-bombing, we had Praise & Worship. It was a time whereby we all settle down in our hearts and sang songs to our Lord Jesus.

Good Friday. It's truly a day whereby we celebrate the greatest miracle of love. Our Lord Jesus, being the son of God, is willing to die for us in the most brutal manner (which was the cross). He had the power to resist, but He chose not to.

The only reason is that He loves us. He loves you and I. That's the greatest miracle of love.

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only son, so that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life." - John 3:16

If you truly want to experience a miracle of love, you don't have to wait another day. You can do it now. Just invite Jesus into your heart. He loves you.

Blood Donors = Life Givers

My grandpa is still inside ICU. His condition is steadily improving, thank God for it.

Over the course of his condition, he had undergone several blood transfusions. In all, he had been given more than 10 bags of red blood cells. Do u know that a normal person has only approximately 10 bags of blood in his body? That means that my grandpa had really lost a great deal of blood.

And I really want to thank all the blood donors who gave their blood to the blood bank. Because of them, my grandpa was able to survive.


I decided that I should do my part too. Together with my girlfriend, Dawn, we went to the blood bank at Health Sciences Authority (next to SGH) and donated blood. We both hoped that our donated blood can be used to give life to others, in times of need.

See? It's not so painful. Look at our faces...

Just as my grandpa was blessed, I would also want to bless others with my blood. I decided to be a regular blood donor.

Blood donation's really easy. The pain is very minimal. You just need to go to the blood bank or any blood donation drive. Of course, there's certain requirements that u need to have. Information on this can be found here.

There can be Miracles...

For the past few days, it has been really intensive for me and my family. We have been in and out of the hospital repeatedly.


My grandfather is still in Intensive Care Unit in SGH, even as we speak. But I really thank God that his condition has improved significantly. He's no longer bleeding internally. And his red blood count is at a healthy level.


This is indeed a miracle!! Yes! There can be miracles! The doctors were like all not very optimistic about my grandfather's condition. He's old and his heart is weak.


For me personally, I discovered a lot about myself throughout this time. I realised that I couldn't really handle my emotions well in times of grief. However, the turning point when one of the youths in my cell group, Kenneth, smsed me these three verses from the Bible (Psalm 112: 6- 8):

6 Surely he will never be shaken;

a righteous man will be remembered forever.

7 He will have no fear of bad news;

his heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD.

8 His heart is secure, he will have no fear;

in the end he will look in triumph on his foes.

It was like an affirmation from God. Earlier in the morning, I was reading through the same psalm. I felt that verse 7 was something that was meant for me. I even memorized it. From that point on, I was able to handle my emotions so much better. I really thank God for it.


As for my grandfather's condition, honestly, there's really nothing much I can do. I can only pray. His life is in God's hands and He loves him more than I do. I surrender all.

I Love You

I Love You.


3 simple words.


3 simple words that convey so much feelings.


To me, these 3 simple words are reserved for people really closed to my heart. I don't say it easily to anyone.


But today, I realised that I have been too stingy with these 3 simple words.


My very own grandfather is right now in intensive care unit at SGH. His condition is not so good at the moment.


And today, at the hospital, I realised I have never told my grandfather "I love you" before. At the thought of this, I almost couldn't control my tears.


My grandfather really meant something in my life. I could remember the times that he brought me out to Chinatown to play when I was only a small boy.


Tomorrow, when I go and visit him, the first thing I'm going to say is "I love you, Ah Gong."


In life, we often don't cherish the people that we have (especially our own family members). It's only when they leave us or about to leave us, then we become worried and sad.


Cherish your family, especially your grandparents. They may not know how to say they love you. But I'm sure you can.

We're One Family!!

I have been super-busy during the Chinese New Year period.

No, I wasn't so busy going house-visiting my relatives.

I was busy because I was part of the organising committee of the Chinese New Year Celebration for SM3 students. I'm in charge of logistics.

(For your info, SM3 students are students who came from China to study at Singapore universities.)

This was the first I was involved in such big-scale planning. There were around 200 people in all! Check out the photo below:

I really learnt a lot out of organizing this event. I learned to coordinate many different things. I had to settle food, chairs, tables, location, oranges, yu sheng, etc. Everyone kept asking for me. I wished I could have split into two or three.

I also think that's the biggest mistake. I must learn to give tasks and responsibilities to others. I tried to carry too many roles. In fact, I actually have helpers.

Overall, I still had a lot of fun and learnt lots of things. I think that every SM3 student had a good time celebrating Chinese New Year. The theme was "We're one family!". This is their first CNY in Singapore. It sure was a memorable one! :)

Happy & Blessed Chinese New Year!!!

Happy & Blessed Chinese New Year!!!

Do you know what is it that I enjoy most for Chinese New Year?

Check out the photos below!! =)

Actually, no lah.

What I enjoy most during Chinese New Year is that I get to intentionally spend extended time with my family.

It starts from the reunion dinner to all the visitations to different relatives' houses.

I really thank God for my family.

(Haha.. but that doesn't mean I don't like the new year goodies. My favourite is the PINEAPPLE TARTS by my mum & sister. They're really really good!! Yummy!!!)

The Gathering... (of Teachers)

The photo above was taken when my Maths class in NIE went for a lunch gather at Pizza Hut at Clementi. It is really amazing that everyone of us is going to start our practicum teaching in less than 2 weeks time.

I must say that I have really enjoyed all my Maths classes in NIE for the past 7 months or so. Each of my classmate had been such a blessing to me that I think I got no space here to write them all. I will only give a few special mentions here...

I want to give thanks for our beloved class rep, Qiu Lin! She's really responsible and made learning for us so much easier. She's going to be a fantastic teacher, no doubt about it.

I want to give thanks for Junjie, Paul and Tze Kun. They are such wonderful team-mates in my Maths class. They have really given me so much encouragement that I think Maths class will be not so interesting if not them.

And of course, I really want to thank my Maths tutor, Dr. Ng too. He's really a very good tutor will go to all lengths to help us trainee teachers teach better in the future.

How time flies.. I'm going to Springfield Secondary soon. My NIE days are numbered. I realized that unknowingly, over time, my Maths class had kind of built a certain bond together. I was really overjoyed to be able to have lunch outside of NIE with them.

I know that the path ahead in teaching is not going to be easy. There will be hurts. There will be disappointments. There will be fear.

But I believe that there will also be true joy. The joy of seeing the lives of our students transformed. As what Mother Teresa said "Do good anyway." I'm really encouraged when I read about this quote from her, about people. I hope that you will be blessed as you read.



People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may just never be enough;
Give the world the best you have anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it's all between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.

A Tale to Tell... (Part 3)

She was crying badly over the phone. She asked me how come I have been ignoring her (which I admitedly did because I wanted to forget her). I tried giving excuses like I was really busy. Kinda lame I think. But what can I say?


Then she confided in me that she was really upset because Benny was kind of pressuring her to break up with her boyfriend. I was shocked. I was really angry at Benny. I was also at a loss.


I did what they always do in movies & drama serials. The next day, I confronted Benny straight away (I wasn't so extreme like the guy on the right). I told him off for making Alicia upset. Benny didn't say anything. He just kept quiet and received my scoldings. I think he felt a bit guilty. Nonetheless, I think he left Alicia alone after that incident.


A few weeks later, for reasons I don't know, Alicia broke up with her boyfriend. For a moment, I thought I had a chance. I continued to show her concern, but I still didn't dare to tell her about my feelings.


But things were not to be. There's this guy, Danny (not real name) also from the same CCA. He's in the same committee as Alicia but they weren't that close, I think. Around that same period in time, something bad happened in Danny's family. He was really upset.


And somehow, in that period in time because he was upset, and Alicia was also upset, they started to talk to one another a lot more. Eventually, they became attached to one another. I was out of the picture once more. That really broke me. Alicia and I drifted apart, and soon, we were really just ordinary friends.


I just couldn't accept it. How can this happen?? I thought we could be together. I was totally crushed. Devastated. To say that I'm upset, that's an gross understatement. I think I couldn't sleep well for a long long time. It took me a really long time before I can function normally again.




Reflections

As I look back, I realised that all along, I have been imagining things on my part - 自作多情 Even though Alicia was attached, I imagined that one day we would be together. And I didn't dare to tell her my feelings because I was afraid that her reply would completely crush my hopes. I wanted to have at least a bit of hope.


That's kind of silly for me. I wasted so much emotions on this incident. I really could have spent more time doing other more meaningful things.


The bottomline is that at that time (during JC), I wasn't ready to handle BGR. My belief is that most of us are not mature enough at that age. Among my friends, only a few of those who got attached in JC made it to marriage.

A Tale to Tell... (Part 2)

After overcoming the initial shock, I began to ask myself what I want to do next. Should I try to come between Alicia and her boyfriend? Or should I just give up contacting her? At that age and maturity, I honestly don't know what to do.


Then on my birthday, Alicia actually gave me a soft toy!! I think I almost went crazy. First time a girl give me a personal birthday present. And it's from the girl I liked!


I thought through after some time. Well, we're still good friends. She probably doesn't know I liked her. Ok, I decided that I want to be good friends with her ONLY. I will not try to make her break up with the boyfriend.


And it worked! We were really good friends. Almost every night, I would call her to chat with her, BEFORE her boyfriend call her. Though I try to tell myself, we can only be good friends, deep in my heart, I was hoping that a miracle would happen. Yah, all along, I didn't tell her that I liked her.


But no miracle happened for me. As time passed, I started to realized that there's another guy from my CCA, Benny (not real name of course), who became quite close to Alicia. All of a sudden, it's like they will be together quite often in school. I didn't have the courage to tell Alicia I liked her. Nor do I dared to ask her what's happening between Benny and her.


I felt left out. Depressed. My moods will consistently be down.


Finally, I made a resolution. I decided to give up. I stopped contacting Alicia completely. I began to focus on other things in school.


Then one night, the most unexpected thing happened. Alicia called me. She was crying...



(To be continued...)

A Tale to Tell... (Part 1)

Recently, my good friend posted on his blog about his BGR experience.

Well, I think everybody has a story of his or her own. My story? It's quite a sad one when I was in JC... It's almost like a drama serial.


Long long time ago...


When I was still quite young, I was studying in this JC.

The photo on the left is a photo of my class and the photo on the right is a photo of my CCA friends.















(I look kinda funny right? haha...)


When I first joined my CCA, I didn't know many people inside. As I came from a boys' school, I don't really have many female friends and I wasn't really comfortable talking to girls on a personal basis. (Class interaction was okay though..)


But one fine day, when I was still pretty new in the CCA, I was relaxing in my CCA room. A girl came into the room. A sweet-looking girl. A girl that caught my attention.


She sat down in the room, and somehow we started to chat. I got to know her name, Alicia (not her real name)!! Awesome, I thought at that time. Something magical happened next.


A senior came into the room. He asked Alicia if she wanted to study with him at the library. I could tell that Alicia wasn't very interested nor comfortable. But somehow she didn't know how to say no. She looked at me, and asked me to join them.


In my heart, I nearly flipped. But on the outside, I calmly said yes. Hence, the three of us went to the library to study together.


And because of this, I got to know Alicia pretty well. We exchanged phone numbers and would chat quite frequently on the phone.


"Am I in love?" I thought to myself. If I'm not, how come I'm always excited when I talk to her or see her.


But we all know, not everything happens in the way that we want. A few weeks later, I overheard a conversation between another of my 2 friends in the same CCA.


They were saying that Alicia has a boyfriend already.


My world came crashing down.



(To be continued...)

Beauty to Rescue

Most of us have read fairy tales, like Rapunzel, Cinderella, Snow White & the Seven Dwarves, and many others.

The themes of these tales are always the same: Damsels in distress, and behold! The knight (or prince) in shining armour comes along and saves the day.

Even modern movies and drama serials, we can often see the same theme as well.

Every time I come across such themes, I can always imagine myself to be the main male character, either being a cop, a prince, or some dragon-slayer or witch-killer.

Isn't that something that we guys all deeply desire? That we can have a beauty to rescue?

Perhaps some of us have not found the beauties to rescue. Perhaps some of us are too young to think about it.

Still, what we can do now is to prepare ourselves. And be ready to resuce the beauty when she comes along.

Be proactive, and not passive guys.

An Adventure to Live

More than a week ago, something hit Singapore.

Remember in the past whereby people queued up for Hello Kitty! at MacDonald's?

But this time round, it's something different. More than 15,000 people queued up OVERNIGHT at Suntec City to get the World of Warcraft Expansion Pack.

15000!!!

I think majority of those people who are engrossed in playing World of Warcraft are guys. I know myself. If I have the game, I would be playing it a lot too.

What draws many guys to this game is that this game paints a fantasy world to them. This world is so huge that people can spend a lot a lot of time exploring it. Every moment is an adventure where you can kill enemies, form new alliances with other places and complete quests.

There is something that is inside guys that goes for adventures. Guys like to take risk. They like the thrill of it. Even if some guys don't enjoy playing World of Warcraft, things like roller coasters and viking boats do have appeal towards them.

The name of the blog of a very good friend of mine, Ee Jay, is "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing". On this blog, the key quote is by Theodore Roosevelt:

"Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorius triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat."

A Battle to Fight

Saving Private Ryan


Maximus (Gladiator)


Maverick (Top Gun)

John McClane (Die Hard)

William Wallace (Braveheart)

All of the above are famous male characters of movies. Movies that were blockbusters in their times. Some of the movies, you will probably know. The rest might not belong to your era.

Interestingly enough, each of those characters was either a solider, gladiator, pilot or cop. They all had battles to fight. There's so much passion in them that they were willing to lay down their lives. Some wanted vengenace. Some wanted freedom. Some wanted glory. But they all fight.

One of the toys that will always excite a small boy is of course the toy gun. And if he can't get his hands on a toy gun, he will probably just get some stick-like object (like the broom) and pretend it's a gun or a sword. He will be in a world of his own, looking for enemies to kill or dragons to slay.

And the cartoons a boy enjoy always involve some kind of fights and triumphs of good over evil. When I was young, my favourite cartoons include Transformers, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, X-Men, Batman and Spiderman.

I think that as guys, there's has always been something fierce deep within our hearts. Hence, every time we watch any of the above movies, there's always a longing to be like the main character.

In modern day society, it has always been taught that aggression is no good. Well, I feel that instead of curbing the aggression inside guys, we should turn it to become some kind of passion towards something more worthwhile.

And I'm not just talking about being passionate for sports. Even doing well in studies can be considered a battle for guys.

Guys, look for the right battles to fight for. And when you do find them, FIGHT.